On my break today, I saw this article. It started with a girl who has 7 destination weddings in less than 12 months, 10 vacation days and recently spent over $2000 just to attend ONE of the 7 weddings.
ONE.
http://www.cnn.com/2012/06/15/travel/obligation-travel/index.html?hpt=hp_c1
Now, I may be bitchy about this... This is a blog where I rant...
I love you dear friends. But I'm not spending OVER $2000 to observe any of you get married. I simply don't have that kind of money.
I will be damned if some CNN article is going to make me feel bad because I can't afford to and have to say no.
(As a side note, none of my friends are getting married this yr and all of them are nice enough to not lay a guilt trip on me if I couldn't afford it.)
According to CNN, I "have no excuse" Not to attend events like weddings and such if it is in the US.
Um yeah. I havent gotten to see the ocean.
Because I can't afford it.
I am pretty sure I can't afford a $1000 trip to Miami for a BACHELORETTE PARTY. Or $4000 for a trip to the Caribbean. (Students using their student loan money apparently)
The moral of this rant is that if your "closest," "best" friends and family can't understand if you can't afford a super expensive Bridal shower, bachelorette party and wedding, then they are materialistic assholes you don't need to have in your life.
ONE.
http://www.cnn.com/2012/06/15/travel/obligation-travel/index.html?hpt=hp_c1
Now, I may be bitchy about this... This is a blog where I rant...
I love you dear friends. But I'm not spending OVER $2000 to observe any of you get married. I simply don't have that kind of money.
I will be damned if some CNN article is going to make me feel bad because I can't afford to and have to say no.
(As a side note, none of my friends are getting married this yr and all of them are nice enough to not lay a guilt trip on me if I couldn't afford it.)
According to CNN, I "have no excuse" Not to attend events like weddings and such if it is in the US.
Um yeah. I havent gotten to see the ocean.
Because I can't afford it.
I am pretty sure I can't afford a $1000 trip to Miami for a BACHELORETTE PARTY. Or $4000 for a trip to the Caribbean. (Students using their student loan money apparently)
The moral of this rant is that if your "closest," "best" friends and family can't understand if you can't afford a super expensive Bridal shower, bachelorette party and wedding, then they are materialistic assholes you don't need to have in your life.
Completely agree. That's just crazy. I wasn't the matron of honor in my best friend's wedding several years ago because we were at a point where we just didn't have the money. It was a really difficult time, very uncertain, and I told her that, point blank. She completely understood. Her parents offered to pay for everything that would have been my obligations - dress, my share of the parties, etc., but I didn't want to get into that or feel like I owed them. This was/is a family I've known since I was 10. Instead, I was a reader at the wedding and it was just as memorable, and when they had their first child, I made it up to them then (as our situation had, thankfully, changed). The point is - as you said - true friends will understand.
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